So just exited a 5 year relationship I happened to be loyal to the core she was not from the start looking for some feel-good songs fresh feel me good music a change from what but I've been listening to I know there has 5o be someone out there who's got something for me P.S. Thanks for the suggestions I will listen to everyone
@Ander6698 sorry to hear that you are going through hard times in your relationship, the best advice I can give you, to not seek advice from someone that is selfish or that loves other things more than they love the one they are in a relationship with.
Almost every relationship starts out successful when the relationship begins to spiral downward no one seems to take notice until it becomes too late to do anything about it. In most cases, one never observes the wrong that was done until it has ended, or they just simply ignore the wrong and continue to go on the same course until it becomes un-fixable (Most of the time that happens due to the fact one wants out of the relationship anyway, or they just stopped caring). It takes two loving and caring hearts to make any relationship work when only one heart is in it then it is only a matter of time before it dies.
I wish you the very best in your journey, may you find success in all that you do. You take care and stay safe.
My GF of 5 years leave me 5 days before Christmas we had plan to go to Oregon to visit her fam. But she decided all the sudden the she was leaving . She ask me to go with her but she said the I didn't matter for if go r not .Zhe suppose to be back in 2 occasions postponed now I don't think she will 6be back .a d the worst of all is the she hasn't communicate with me as before and now she is not answering at all when before she loved to do video calls . She s g ill ask me to go but I feel the she ask just because to make her self feel better.i love her deeply but I know the she is not invested in our relationship the same level the I am .
I don't know what to do .
@Xavyvy1 you stated you love her, so obviously your heart is still in it. But the other fact remains, is her heart still in it?? I have been married once, and I was engaged in my last relationship and this is what I have found to be true in both. It takes two hearts to give it "ALL" to make the relationship work. It is not 50/50, it is all or nothing. So as painful or harsh as it may sound, you may have to be prepared to just let her go. Time does not alter love it is the heart that keeps it or releases it over time. When love is "Alive" the heart is living, when love "Dies" the heart has vacated, so should you. Sometimes the greatest healing for the heart is to just let the relationship die, for one heart cannot go on living without the other. I understand that you still love her and want her, but you cannot force someone else to love you or stay in a relationship with you and that my friend is the cold-hearted truth. She may have already made the decision for you both, so you must be prepared for that awful heartbreaking fact.
The truth is, she just may need some time and space, so give it to her. Stop trying to smother her with all of the phone calls. I would at least call once a day to show her I'm still here and I'm still in this relationship. Don't be blowing her phone up with 20 texts or 20 calls a day. Just give her some space. So while you're waiting to see if she is coming back or not this is what I would do. Work on yourself, none of us are perfect and that is a fact. You need to reflect on "When did the relationship start turning cold?"
Look in the mirror and see what you need to change, perhaps you may have done something that she hates or dislikes, and without knowing or perhaps just not being aware you very well may have done something to trigger your relationship to start going sour. There is something we all can improve on to make our relationships better, so just take this time to see what is you need to improve on.
I wish you all of the very best in your life, and I truly do hope your relationship mends. You take care and stay safe.